Sorry to inform you #LinkedIn is not #Tinder or cupid struck search program..

 

I have been on Linked In for more than Five years now, but today I seriously couldn’t resist writing it to all, they know who they are, Sorry to inform you LinkedIn is not Tinder, match.com , or any cupid stuck search program.

I really fail to understand that why on a professional site are people trying to find some soulmate, or rectify their mid age crisis. I understand you might be going through a rough patch in your married life or you are done with your life partner, there is no spice in your life and you are fed up doing mundane activities but for that you have good lawyers to suggest you future course of action or still if scope of reviving the relationship is there some good counselors are out there,why do you want to use LinkedIn as a platform?

I just want to ask everyone if someone has  written in the Headline of LinkedIn  “looking for help or job change or guidance”. How does the other person derives the conclusion that this person is available to stabilize the hormone imbalance at your end. I mean, such is the  sorry state of our affairs in this era even though we might talk of equality, women empowerment bla bla .. women is still seen as an object of desire.

Let me put a thought here for those who are roaming misguided, I believe you have different sites where you can interact with people and the cause is common, all are out for dating, match making, time-pass, extramarital affair. So , “STOP TROLLING PEOPLE ON LINKED-IN”.

It turns out all the propaganda about men not being able to communicate is wrong, I feel LinkedIn is where men are actually communicating, God save other sites, “Men are from Mars,” “Men are Neanderthals,” these phrases reinforce the stereotype that men cannot talk about their feeling and motives have got dazzled out at least in my mind.

So the end note is, LinkedIn is a professional site some actually get benefited with the articles in post, job opportunities posted and grow our professional network ,so lets continue to make the best of it.

 

 

 

 

 

Facing my child , as if she were my boss…

Dead and tired I came from my work place, when so many things were still trolling my mind & keeping me occupied. I had no stamina to listen to anything but then my little 5 year daughter came running to me, please let me tell you I was so tired that I couldn’t even pay attention to  what she had to tell me, it put her off and she said, “u don’t care for me mom”.

This one incidence made me full of guilt, I kept on thinking that night ,I’m working out of choice,being independent, ambitious, trying to give best to my child , its not wrong but then how can I let suffer my most important thing, MY CHILD…

I told myself, if I  had one more meeting when I was dead tired, with no other choice I would have sat in front of all of them with a smile, trying to pretend, I’m so happy attending this meeting. So why can’t I pretend with my child even, wear that smile, listen to her calmly for ten minutes, to make her day. I know it may be an over dose of melodrama, my daughter coming running to me, I hugging her, kissing her all over her face, but believe you me that what she is looking for.

My life has become so simplified and easy, how busy or tired I may be now I come home spare those initial ten minutes to know what did she do all the day, what are we going to do this weekend, what all she desires to have, her friends, her school …

I’m setting targets and KPIs here for my self,  if my company have some mercy on me, I would like to take my daughter to park myself, play with her in her doll house, take her cycling and for swimming as well.

I believe in my self and I know I will achieve my targets. I have promised myself I will create beautiful memories about her childhood for her.

 

 

 

Let’s speak to our kids about “CHILD ABUSE..”

Sexual Abuse… let’s prepare our kids to save from any such situation…

While most of us would agree to it, this may involve a stranger, most sexual abuse is perpetrated by someone the child knows and trusts.

It includes any touching for a sexual purpose, fondling of breasts, buttocks, genitals, oral sex, sexual intercourse, an adult exposing them to the child for a sexual purpose.

The effects of any form of abuse are not always immediate or visible. The long-lasting effects of emotional, physical or sexual abuse may only become evident as a child becomes older and begins to show difficult or disturbing behaviors or symptoms.

I don’t want my child to suffer from any of the above.How do I Break the ice with my Five-year-old daughter? It so happened that we went to watch movie Kahaani 2. In that movie, it’s so beautifully depicted that how Vidya Balan takes the little girl in confidence to confess the sexual abuse happening to her.

I got it how to begin the conversation with my child to break the ice. While giving her shower I simply asked her, you remember what did Vidya said in the movie yesterday, that when someone touches my nose and stomach I don’t feel good.  Immediately she said no, she said, “I don’t like if someone touches my chest or Private part”.  I was happy that the point has got into her head. Immediately I didn’t want to pose another question to her or overdo anything.  Since childhood, I have been feeding my daughter mind that, I, her mother is her best friend and all the secrets and every talk is to be shared between us.  If she can’t share some talk with me that means it’s wrong.

While we have to educate the child about abuse, we have to be cautious that in doing so we are not filling too much in their mind and making them very sensitive about the whole thing.

I have a few of working hands at home, my domestic help, gardener, laundry person. So I have been educating my child about good and bad touch. About a safe circle, means people she can trust which would include her grandparents or someone very close.

I have a password tied up with my daughter, that in case, someone tries to woo her, school, to tell her that her mother has sent him/her to pick her school, the park she needs to ask for a password.

Travelling has been a part of my life. My daughter is too young to remember my mobile number, but I scribble it on both her hands while traveling, keep a slip in her pocket, her bag that she carries. Just in case something happens and she gets lost, I trust there are good people still existing I world who would help.

At times mothers still feel apprehensive to talk to their kids, in that case, there are few very nice cartoon short movies on youtube to explain thing better.

I’m working towards making my daughter a stronger female with all the trust in her parents. Speaking about sex or related questions is not a taboo.

Saree- Threads of tradition and Indian culture.

Saree that makes any female stand out in the crowd. It’s a traditional, authentic and most beautiful wrap for the female. In India especially the southern part has been the center for keeping this traditional outfit alive in full swing. Though, every state in India has its own style of workmanship. Hats off to the weavers, weaving these beautiful threads into amazing piece, using different fabrics and embroidery.

In India it’s difficult to count the type of saris. However, the most famous one are listed here. In case, sometime you are crossing these states, you can take one as a souvenir adding to your wardrobe collection.

Jammu and Kashmir- Aari work sari (Kashmiri Kadai ),Tabi silk sari , Chinan sari.

Punjab- Phulkari work sari, Karachi work(originally not from here).

Rajasthan- Bandhani sari, Gota pati sari, Kota Doriya sari, cotton block print sari, Lehariya sari.

Uttar Pradesh- Banarasi sari, Chikan work sari, Brocade, Gota sari, Organza sari, Tissue Zari sari, Zari Zardozi work sari.

Madhya Pradesh- Maheshwari silk sari, Chanderi silk sari, Tussar silk sari, Bafta sari. Shadow work sari.

West Bengal- Zamdani work sari, Kantha work Sari, Baluchari sari, Tant

Bihar- Tussar sari, Bhagalpur silk.

Orissa- Sambhalpuri, Bomkai, Kotki.

Assam- Moga silk sari

Maharastra- Paithani sari, Puna cotton sari.

Gujarat- Patola sari, Bandhani sari with silk, zari work. Kutch work

Andhra Pradesh- Pochampali sari, Ikat sari

Karnataka- Narayanpet, Bhavanjipet sari. Mysore silk sari, Crepe zari silk sari.

Kerela- Pattu Sari.

Tamil Nadu- Kanchipuram Sari, Cotton silk sari, Konrad sari(Temple Sari).

Apart from the above mentioned there are various saris finding its way in wardrobes like Raw silk sari, Geecha , Linen Sari, Parsi work, Khadi cotton, Bishnupur silk, Kesh sari, Pashmina Sari and believe you me the list goes on.

Well I feel so glad that I’m married to olive green, travelling length and breadth of the country, more over he belongs to the land of big giant players in sari world  like  Pothys, Nalli , Chennai Silk to name a few, so I have this opportunity to keep shopping and adding an amazing collection to my wardrobe. “Mere patti ko  toh itni tension hoti hai mujhe apne ghar le jaatey huey ki pata nahi iss baar kita dent padega”. Ha ha ha..

Well for all my friends who think that Fab India , State Emporiums and Khadi Gram Udyog are the only places you can enjoy shopping these ethnic saris then let me connect you to an easy way out, check out the link below and connect to an amazing collection and shop your threads of tradition.

https://www.facebook.com/Maa-667098276800450/

Tussar Sari

Pashmina

Gotta Pati

Bhagalpur silk

Karachi work

Maheshwari silk

Cotton silk

Kantha work

Kanchipuram silk

Kota Doriya

Chandrei Silk in Indigo

Crepe

 

Life so far….

Hello Everyone…   I’m Meenakshi Gupta, more ‘famous’ by my nick name, Maggie.
A fun loving person…love to travel.. a hardcore foodie….. and a self acclaimed amazing cook!!!  I love experimenting, whether it’s my looks, my food, my work or parenting.

An alumni of Officers Training Academy, Chennai and Indian Institute of Management – Ahmedabad.
Happily married to the olive green…. my long distance Ex boyfren…

Would love to share my experiences and knowledge about Healthy Food Recipes ,Exploring India more for shopping , Gardening and a few tips about Fashion and Jewellery…

Looking forward for everyone’s love and support…

Of course by now one thing you know about me……..that i’m my favorite….. ha ha ha…. keep smiling and spread happiness…….Life is so beautiful…